What is self confidence?
Self confidence simply means a feeling of trust in one’s ability, power, qualities and personal judgement. Two main things contribute to self-confidence that are self-efficacy and self-esteem. We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed; and it’s this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of setbacks. This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem, which is a more general sense that we can cope with what’s going on in our lives, and that we have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from a feeling that the people around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control. However, it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we’re competent at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our minds to it. Some people believe that self-confidence can be built with affirmations and positive thinking. It is believed that there’s some truth in this, but that it’s just as important to build self-confidence by setting and achieving goals – thereby building competence.
What is self esteem ?
People are often confused about what it means to have self-esteem. Some think it has to do with the way you look or how popular you are with your friends or others. Others believe that having a great body will help you gain self-esteem, while others think you actually need to have accomplished something in order to have good self-esteem. Self-esteem simply means appreciating yourself for who you are. Self-esteem is similar to self-worth (how much a person values himself or herself). This can change from day to day or from year to year, but overall self-esteem tends to develop from infancy and keep going until we are adults.
What can develop self esteem ?
Take a deep breath : Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It’s also a good frame of mind to be in when you’re taking a close look at the things you’re not so good at the things you’re not so good at.
Take inventory of your strengths : Everybody’s good at something, and many people are good at quite a few things. Even if you don’t have a talent or strength that you’re aware of, you probably have some interests can develop into strengths. Make a list of a few things you’re good at and a few things you’re interested in and would like to be better at. Share this list with your parents, an aunt or uncle, or a teacher you like and trust. They can probably help you find other things you’re good at, too, and help you come up with a plan for developing other skills and interests.
Realize your limits : Nobody’s perfect — not even close. It may not always seem this way, but it’s true. So if you weren’t born a good singer, a super athlete or an “A” student, that’s OK. You have a personality and a perspective on the world that’s all your own and completely valuable.
Stop putting yourself down. Now! : One of the biggest things that keeps people from achieving their goals — and feeling good about themselves — is negative self-talk
In other words, telling yourself that you’re a loser or a failure puts a big damper on your ability to get what you want and be who you want. If you don’t do well at a particular project or task, it doesn’t mean that you never will. Perhaps you weren’t prepared or the time simply wasn’t right. It doesn’t mean that you’re a lousy human being or that you’ll never succeed. It’s OK to be upset for a bit when things don’t go your way, but after a little while, let it go and move on. You’ll be that much closer to achieving what you want if you do.
Celebrate progress and small victories : Did you pass your driver’s test or gave a great speech despite feeling nervous? Give credit where credit’s due: You did it, and you rule! And guess what? You can tackle bigger, harder projects, too.
Pat yourself on the back every day : Find a few small things that you did well each day. Whether it’s waking up on time, smiling at the dorky hall monitor or sending a card to your grandmother, a lot of good can be accomplished in one day — and it’s something to take pride in.
” MAKE YOUR SELF ESTEEM HIGH, HONOR WHO YOU ARE ! ”
#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!