WALK AWAY !

What does the title suggest ? To walk away with the truth ? Or to walk away from some fear and be coward ? NO, it’s not walking away from the reality or from yourself but to walk away from someone’s life who’s not worth having you in it and to make them realise your WORTH.

Let It Hurt.
Let It Bleed.
Let It Heal.
And Let It GO.

Walking away from someone’s life who you love, care and attached to them is really hard. But things get harder if someone’s making you worthless and still you are carrying on with them. At this moment of life it is even harder to decide whether to walk away or to stay. Because when there is nothing between both left to say then there’s no use to stay and better to walk away and move on but the other thought that comes in our mind that if is it okay to walk away rather than just stay and talk to them. Well talking and clearing out the things between them is good but when you realise that it has been third or fourth time and the other person is not realising and is of no worth to clear the things more then you should step back from their life and move on forward to your life. Because if the person becomes annoying and of no worth for your attention and company then there’s no use of you to stay anymore. Sometimes letting go some things could make it better than making it worse.

You can love someone, help someone, guide someone, be there with them in all there hard times but cannot be a slave to someone and most importantly never become a use and throw material to that person, even if it has happen then give a break to your life and be mature to take such decision to make yourself worthy not worthless. Loving someone means you can wait for them, you can forgive them for their mistakes but when it’s high time then you need to first love yourself and get learned that when you need to walk away. Because sometimes walking away is the most powerful, mature and appreciable decision you could ever do. Always remember if you have done good to that person and you gave your 100% to that person then don’t worry in moving out of their lives because karma plays it’s role very well. You’ll anyhow get that goodness in return may be from that person only or may be in some other terms but you’ll definitely get it back and also don’t be sad for their doings as i say karma does it’s job very well so surely it will take care for them too. Some day at some time that person will realise that what they have done with you and cry for it but unfortunately their would be no one who can wipe their tears as they will be all alone.

“You see a person’s true colours when you are no longer beneficial to their life.”

When there’s nothing left to say, lift your head up high, smile, and walk away !

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!

NATIONALISM CREATES ENEMIES

Enchanting ‘Vande Matram’ and ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ is considered to be the symbols of nationalism, as the rulers of the country have decided. But the independent moment started by the Congress Party in the 19th and 20th century had a different connotation, at the time all the Indian people both Hindus and Muslims united together because both of them had a common goal of ‘Sarajya’. But on today’s day this connotation of nationalism has changed, way different perception.

In our schools and colleges enchanting ‘Vande Matram’ has been made as a compulsory announcement during assembly. But the Muslim community in India are having a different views in this respect and taking this as a purely religious matter. They have their own Personal Law Board, they have their own reservation in this respect. According to their ‘Shariya’ Law, that debar them to enchant this word (Vande Matram). Here we have created an enamical situation.

Now enchanting ‘Vande Matram’ and ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ has decided a two classes in India, one nationalist and other separatist. The concept of nationalism is murdered here. The human being in India is totally forgotten. Now, we have mainly two divisions of communities in India that are Hindus and Muslims which was the basis of division of India in 1947. Ever since the atmosphere in India is vitiated, also the recent shouting of Azadi in J.N.U campus has clearly vitiated the entire political situation in the states of Jammu and Kashmir. The Valley is totally disturbed at the moment.

The political ruler of the country (Bhartiya Janta Party, BJP) is unnecessarily raising the concept of nationalism. Honourable Shree Rabindranath Tagore had long ago written the book on nationalism. He had emphasized the human aspects of the people and associated this with the nature of the Earth. Man and nature go together, nature includes the earth and the man. Our geographical earth is bound. This very earth was divided in 1947. Now the people of Kashmir wants to divide this earth out of enmity – man against man. Our father of the nation (Mahatma Gandhi) had compositely thought about Hindus and Muslims. When he fought for the freedom of the country against the British Empire for the Independence. There was no question of Hindus and Muslims. All the people of India were Indian nationals, whether are in Hindu or Muslim. Then why do we have the question of national now, whether we enchant ‘Vande Matram’ or ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ or remain silent, why we have to have the index of national or anti-national now. If we like to enchant ‘Vande Matram’ or ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ or remain silent, our nationalism is impact. We should not have such rules that creates enemy in the society.

“With the banner of Nationalism in our hearts to build up a Mighty India, let us march forward on the path of duty.”

Nationalism is an infantile disease. It is the measles of mankind.

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!

BE A GOOD SPEAKER

All the great speakers were bad speakers at first, so never under estimate yourself; you can do it and you will do it.

Listening and speaking go simultaneously and as I told you all to be an effective listener in my previous post, it is also important to be a good speaker as well, which I would be telling you in my current post.

SPEAK in such a way that offers love to LISTEN to you.

Speeches occur in a wide variety of interpersonal, group and public communication situations for accomplishing an equally wide variety of business and professional goals. These include: to win approval or acceptance, to gather, disseminate, and exchange information, to exercise influence over the organizational process. There are different types of speeches ad their success depends on the ability of the presenter or speaker to assemble and collect and put forward different aspects of the subject in order to persuade the audience.

In order to be a good speaker, you have to follow some minimal tips which I’m going to explain you :

  • Be clear : Clarity is the first major point to be a good speaker. Your spoken words, should be eminently successful in conveying to the audience the ideas or emotions, facts or arguments, or the information you want to express. If your audience does not instantly able to grasp your point, you have failed as a speaker.
  • Be like an informal talker : A good speaker is closer to a personal and informal chat between two good friends. When you speak, there should be a perfect rapport between you and your audience to whom you want to convey your message.
  • Be vivid and concrete : Abstractions kill words. So make your words vivid. Include in it concrete facts which are easy to comprehend and visualize.
  • Be brief : The concentration or interest of an average audience does not last more than twenty to twenty five minutes. Ideally, your words should not be longer than this, unless the audience is motivated to know more. To achieve brevity, it is desirable to include only a few points which are mainly in concentration in your speech and elaborate them at some limited length.
  • Be interesting Quotations, symbols and humorous touches often make a speech interesting. Quotations should be familiar but not worn out. Humor should be spontaneous and gentle to attract the audience and not to get bored.
  • Be audience-oriented : A good speech is always tuned to the wavelength of the audience. Consider few points like are the audience general or specialized, how large is the audience, their age group, their social, religious, political and economic view of the listeners.

The good speaker should have the below mentioned qualities :

  • A good speaker is active, interested, cheerful, and enthusiastic, vital.
  • A good speaker is solemn.
  • A good speaker has a sense of controlling others.
  • A good speaker has a sense of controlling his subject.
  • A good speaker has a sense of leadership; he stands up tall, he talks eye to eye, speaks responsibly and with authority, as a leader should.
  • A good speaker tries to be equitable or impartial and same.
  • A good speaker keeps his sense of comicality.

“In good speaking, should not the mind of the speaker know the truth of the matter about which he is to speak.”

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!

EFFECTIVE LISTENING

What do you think is a listening ? 

Listening is an everyday affair. Most listeners see listening as a challenging task, so much so that the greatest challenge that the speaker faces is to make his/her speech making worth to. In other words, when a speaker envisages his/her speech making endeavor, he/she grows increasingly obsessed with the idea of making his/her speech interesting. This is simply because if he/she does not make his/her speech engrossing enough, he/she will not be listened to. To keep the listeners attentive to their speech, most speakers use a variety of tactics. Listening may be defined as the process of hearing, understanding and interpreting the spoken words. Listening means trying to view the issue the way the speaker views it. It means empathy. Listening requires more intelligence than speaking.

Effective listening is one of the keys to success in life and business. Listening is a vital component of the communication process. The effectiveness of communication depends upon the extent to which listening and communication take place in the course of an interaction. How effective listening can be benefited :

  • Better work environment: Proactive listening leads to understanding the real meaning of whatever is said. The listener understands the speaker’s beliefs, values, expectations and goals. When people listen with empathy, they better understand each other. Relations between them improve leading to a happy work environment.
  • Effective problem solving: Effective listening enables members of an organization collaborate in understanding problems and finding solutions to them. Decision making becomes effective.
  • Time saving: Good listening helps to avoid, wastage of time caused by needless clarification and queries.
  • Reduction in Hostilities: Active listening reduces tensions and conflicts. Healthy exchange of views and opinions removes misunderstandings and disputes. Team work is enhanced.
  • Industrial Harmony: When managers listen with empathy, employees have faith and trust in management. If grievances and suggestions of employees are expressed freely there is improvement in employer-employee relations.
  • Higher earnings: Increase in the commitment and satisfaction o employees ultimately result in greater sales and profits. Customer satisfaction : To satisfy the customer needs listening is an important factor. Customer needs reassurance that he is being heard. When he expresses the complaint and being heard it gives him a lot of satisfaction.
  • Employee Training: In the knowledge economy, employees have to constantly upgrade their knowledge and skills. Good listening is important tool learning from others.
  •  Public Relations: Every business firm communicates with its stakeholders. Active listening helps the firm to improve its relations with stakeholders and thereby, boosts its public image.

This motivates the person who is being listened by the other person and got attention from. You can be an effective listener by using these tips :

  • Positive Attitude: The speaker must develop a positive attitude towards the speaker. Acceptance of the speaker creates a proactive interest in listening. Then the listener can understand the words as well as the feelings of the speaker.
  • Concentration: Full concentration on what is being said is the key to good listening. The listener can focus his attention by trying to anticipate the speaker’s utterances. No part of the speech has to be missed out. Listen patiently and with full attention.
  • Interaction: Question answer technique facilitates interactions between the speaker and the listener. Participation of the listener makes listening effective. Avoid direct questions and arguments about facts.
  • Right body language: An active listening must have an attentive face, direct eye-contact, a closed mouth, smile, a comfortable sitting position and occasional handshake. All distracting body gestures like tapping of feet, drumming of fingers and talking to other listeners should be avoided.
  • Prevent Noise: All environmental distractions must be prevented to ensure proper listening.
  • Listen between the lines: The changing tone and volume of voice, facial expressions, gestures and body movements of the speaker all have some meaning. Listening can be made effective by the conscious effort oh speaker, the listener and others concerned with the process of communication

This is not a tough job to be an effective listener. Try this once and you’ll notice itself the difference between the thing now and before. Also it will help increasing your communication skills and also will help others.

“Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone.”

Listening is a positive act : you have to put yourself out to do it.

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!

BE A POSITIVE TALKER

What is the term ‘positive’ means ? Positive is a desirable or constructive quality, being optimistic, confident or attribute.

Truth is individual. That means when we speak, we have to be positive, that is the indication is in a good form. Or all the good points are to be highlighted. Our focus is the reality or truth. For instance : Mahatma Gandhi experienced truth in South Africa and had written down a book called “My Experience With Truth”. Here he talked about his daily incidences happened in life. Likewise we should be speaking the plain truth as truth always carries the positivity with it no matter what.

In colleges or schools, our teacher asks about ‘ what is happening in the states of Uttar Pradesh ?’ Now we are to speak or talk about the political aspects in the State. The Chief Minister, Shri Yogi Aditya Nath transferred so many of the government officers at a time in his State. It is impracticable in the system of administration, that indicates interruption of day to day work in the life of the people of the State, even when the life of the officers transferred is affected.

At the same time, in the name of ‘The Gau Raksha’ the vigilantes have taken the law into their own hands. Muslim people in the State that are engaged in the business of animal trades are harassed in the main of ‘Gau Raksha’. They are their real traders of cows and buffaloes. The vigilantes ask them about the receipts of the animal trades. At the same time they took them into upward situation. Moreover they beat them and snatched their mobile phones and other belongings with them. This was telecast in the television. In this case we have talked about the positive aspects of State. We haven’t added any masala in the talk. This is the plain truth in the State. At another place, there are people who are poaching the animal skin, and also the elephant tusk.

Also in the State of Madhya Pradesh the Minister of the State had distributed 700 bats to brides, so that they could take care of their husbands, in case they turn alcoholic. In this case this a novel idea that the Minister administered. Somewhere in the States of Bihar, there is a total Prohibition, no alcohol is sold in the State.

Overall political administration in India, at a moment is going some drastic change. Somewhere vigilantes problem, somewhere Gau Raksha problem and somewhere alcoholic problem.

The above facts are all about truth and are narrated positively because as i said in starting that truth carries positivity with it.

“Be ANNOYINGLY POSITIVE and OPTIMISTIC than DESTRUCTIVELY NEGATIVE and HATEFUL.”

Once you replace negative thoughts with POSITIVE ones, you’ll start having positive RESULTS.

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!