She thought she is now no more will be in touch with her, they are no more friends but she was wrong. Her friend who was her best friend realized that what she did and came to her with all guilt and regrets. At first she was not ready to accept her at all, they use to fight, screaming standing on the roadside like anything and still are blaming to each other for the past. She refused her friend to get back to their friendship and moved away from there but her friend did not stepped back or did not let her moral down, she again contacted her but she was not replying to her texts, calls or anything. She was ignoring her but also got melted but did not showed her friend her true feelings as she was not ready at that time to get back to that friendship or that bond which they use to share earlier. She was scared or afraid that one day again her friend do the same thing and then again will come to her and say sorry to her and things will get repeat again and again, due to which she distanced herself from her friend. Her friend keeps on trying and she keeps on ignoring her, and one day coincidentally they meet somewhere and again she was trying to run away from the things but her friend didn’t let her go this time. She made her stay there and they talked to each other and calmly sought out the things and she got melted and accepted her friend’s sorry. At that moment she didn’t thought of that what if her friend repeat the same in future or anything else, she just thought of their friendship and her friend’s true efforts which made her melt. Also rather being in anger and being in past, she accepted the reality and the things her friend did to her and forget all that and moved on to good things and forgive her friend and start that all with a new beginning to their friendship.
And in the end it was the happy ending for their friendship for which everybody use to chase and praise. It was not the bad time for their friendship but it was a small test for them of their friendship which they passed with flying colors and now they are together and happy again 🙂
Remember if it’s ending abruptly then it’s not the end, it’s just a pause in your life which will be continued further with happy ending.
We all have experienced some disappointments, curse or hurts in our lives. It may be our friends, family, colleagues, seniors or it could be anyone. Anyone who betrayed us, disappointed us, who’ve been rude with us or the person whom we love, harmed us in any manner. There are some wounds which can be easily healed but some are so deep that could be hard to heal and move further. At this point of time some people use to forgive and forget to make things easier and to make themselves in peace, which could be very helpful and useful as to avoid the fights and arguments. Being in anger and having a thought of revenge all time ends up nothing but makes you irritate and impatient, which let things go wrong and useless. Remember do not let yourself become so rude or harsh that the impact of it damages or harms you physically or mentally. Holding on to things which are of no use makes things more worse as I explained in one of my earlier post that sometimes letting go makes things easier than holding on to it.
It’s true that to forgive someone who have hurt you or betrayed you in some manner is not easy in fact it’s very difficult but that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. No it’s not impossible to forgive someone, it might take some time for you to forgive and forget the things but definitely it will happen if you try. To forgive and forget the actions of others who are trying to hurt you or harm you is the best way to make them realize their mistake without even uttering a single word from your mouth and by just keeping quiet and forgiving the things. Sometimes we have to be blind to make others realize their mistakes.
“Forgive yourself for the blindness that put you in the path of those who betrayed you. Sometimes a good heart doesn’t see the bad.”
Why is that happen that we don’t believe on ourselves ? Even when we are in utmost need to believe on ourselves and had to find some way regarding any situation we probably doubt on ourselves at that very particular time and tend to believe on others and accept their views and points for that situation instead of taking our view points. When we are dealing to the problem of our own and need to take decision for our life then why listen to the others and not ours ? Instead of listening or believing on ourselves, we doubt on us and think that things will go more worse. We usually start thinking negative and imagine things that may go wrong in the future. Thinking negative, stressing, worrying, imagining won’t help you out but what can help you is believing in yourself, believe in you, your inner sight, be you. This is the most important step that one could do before starting any of your dream or task or dealing with any situation. In fact you can only believe in god when you believe in yourself. At times god’s also becomes helpless and could not find a way for you when he see that you yourself is not helping you then how can god will ? To make god help you he must also see a will in you to help yourself. Unless and until you cannot help yourself no one else can do it for you, similarly unless and until you cannot believe in yourself no one ever will believe in you. If you are sure and believe yourself blindly and truly then you can make any one believe in you, no matter what the situation is but you can do it.
The human’s most powerful weapon is their own mind. When it decides to believe in you then nothing can stop you doing that. You are the architect of the structure of a building growing up in your mind and it’s in your hands whether to believe in yourself and make it impressive and attractive or to not to believe in yourself and doubt yourself that you cannot do it and ruin your plan in your mind.
Measuring success does not mean calculating the wealth you have, the achievements you have achieved or the power you have attained. Yes, it is true that these things do matter in one’s life for a period of time or for the whole life but that is not enough. Though achieving everything in their lives, meeting every dream of their that point of life they are still missing something and that something is The Purpose. The purpose of living their life is missing. That gap which is been missed by them should be filled with the purpose of their life, which should be taken care of by them.
Now, obviously every person is different and have different visions of life so the purpose of everyone would be also different but there’s a common thread that bind a life with a purpose and those are :
Set your ethics straight : The very important thing to start with your purpose should be by setting your ethics straight and clear and to the point for your life and for your comfort zone.
Set your priorities : Setting priorities should be taken as wisely as you have to make a list of your wishes and number them one by one accordingly to your priority and your keen interest.
Maintain that belief and values : Purpose of living life includes your beliefs and values which shape and determine your decisions and make a clear vision for your life ahead.
Be passionate : Have that eager and excitement everyday to follow and fulfill your desired passion which you always wanted to be fulfilled and make that happened.
Live the present, live the moment : Cherish every moment of your life, thank for your every moment. Live it without any regret and make your life bliss. Take the joy of what you have instead of being worrying for what you do not have.
Success in life comes with the aspect of living your life with a purpose. The moment you start living your life with a purpose, that moment you find worth living and with the reason of something to live it with all happiness and passion of doing something you’ve always wanted to.
Make it happen, make it worth !
” Your LIFE has purpose. Your STORY is important. Your DREAMS count. Your VOICE matters. You were born to make an IMPACT. “
They say speak out words which are clean and won’t hurt anyone. They say make your feelings true and real. They say behave nicely to others. But….isn’t that all ? No, because if you are not clean by inside then you cannot be by outside. Inside beauty says thinking, your thinking should be clean before speaking out any word, your thinking should be wise and vulnerable to make your feelings true and real, your thinking should have the right way to let know what is good or bad to behave properly to anyone. It’s so obvious that if you cannot think beyond the wants and needs which are expected by someone then you cannot match their mental level to make them clear your words and feelings. To make everything go smooth and without any abruptions, thinking plays a major role.
While other people takes decisions without thinking and in hurry and make things worse, you can wait and take some time in thinking and taking decisions to not to make things worse but good and smooth. Your thinking can effect many people, so think wisely and intelligently. If you want to, you can help many by your intelligent thinking but if you do not want to then you can let many in problems. So, always think before doing any action, always think before saying any thing, always think before behaving, always think before revealing any feelings. Make a wise decision, make an intelligent decision by making your thinking wise and royal.
To not think, makes a dumb man. But; To think, makes an intelligent man.
“It doesn’t actually matters that what other people think but it matters what you think, as you cannot be as cruel as others, you always keep your thinking clean.”
Instead of being a coward and running away from your problems, be brave and face it. Face it : your problems, which are making you conscious, irritated and low confident. You must always face them and overcome the obstacles in your way by addressing the problem. Running away from your problems or asking god to take away your problems is not a wise decision or a solution, it’s always a thing of cowards not a powerful person who is willing to do everything and willing to pass away from any obstacle but somehow steps back due to any reason or confusion in their minds. Remember running away from problems is a coward’s cup of tea and not of a brave person. Problems come in everyone’s life but a successful person can only be one who can stay calm at that period of time and overcome through every situation intelligently and smartly. There’s hardly a period of time in which a person can be free of problems and stay smoothly. Sometimes for some people occurring problems are not an issue but solving them makes an issue, as they do not act smartly and gets panic at the same time which makes them curious and irritated and accidentally make things worse. To face the problem wisely and smartly first you should be calm and analyze the roots and cause of the problem and after analyzing every obstacles you then need to work on it to make it better and end that cause. Analyzing it make things easier and smoother and run you from the thought of running away from the problem because running away makes you no solution infact will dig you more in the problem. So, instead of thinking of running away from the problem make them easy by analyzing it and finding the roots and causes. Smart act will always makes you think facing the problem and weak act makes you think of running from the problem, it’s up to you that what you should up to ; making a smart move or a weak move !
“Anyone can run away, it’s super easy. Facing problems and working through them, that’s what makes you strong.”
It was a starting of a new day and she was just laying on her bed and suddenly her phone flashes a face book notification. She got a message from a guy. She checks his profile picture. He drives a Range Rover. He is handsome. He again inbox her and she replied, all excited. They talked and decided to meet and set a date. She dress up very well, smells good and put on some make up. He takes her for lunch, had a good meal and had a great time. He makes her laugh, take care of her, gives her looks and smiles. And she too smiled and stupidly fall in love with him. It was like she have known him Forever. He makes her feel comfortable, spend the whole day with her and continued it for at least one week. He said, he loves her and she also don’t hesitate to say she loves him too. Also one day they spend the whole entire day together and had a good time. He use to help her, makes her feel nice and comfortable, says her cheesy things to maintain that trust of her towards him. Then he dropped her home and says ‘I had a great time’. She smiles and say ‘See you tomorrow’. He stays silent. She get back home and can’t stop smiling and inbox him that ‘It was a good day’. He was online, but doesn’t reply. It’s unlike him, so she inbox him again. He doesn’t respond. Minutes later she can’t find him on her friend list. HE BLOCKED HER. Days, weeks, months passes by. She start feeling sick, weak, loose weight. She realizes things were not going good. She don’t understand. Reality hits her. And that was it for her life. She chased him like anything and now when she needs him, he was not there and he blocked her due to which she was getting sick day by day.
Don’t be that girl. Live well ! Stop chasing material things !Stop chasing sponsors !
Live a LIFE, Not a LIE.
“Materialistic things do not impress people, The soul does.”
She is 19, a college going girl, have a lot of friends, few are her best friends. But is that all ? ‘Few are her best friends’, but are they truly her best friends ? No, they were not her best friends. She being a teenager trusted them and truly relied on them who were not at all deserving. She thought that they are her true friends who can never lie to her and will always be there for her but she didn’t knew that she was wrong, she was living a fantasy world in which things look good as they look in real.
Her so called best friends left her all alone while she was stuck in the problem, while she was screaming to help her and there were no one of them who took a stand for her.
She was trapped in some fake issue of stealing question papers from the principal’s office and the whole world accepted that she was the thief. She kept screaming, crying, yelling but no one listened to her not even her friends because the one who stole the question papers were her friends but not her. But due to the fear of getting suspend, her friends put all the blame on her and she could do nothing but yelled. There was no one who could trust her and her friends whom they call her best friends left her in that situation while she was helpless and got stuck in her career and life. At the end no one believed the innocent girl and she got suspended from her college after doing 4 years of her B.Tech and was in the last year. Her suspension made her hate herself, ruined her life, her career just because of her friends whom she used to trust blindly. Always remember, never trust anyone blindly because no one is trustworthy in today’s world. It is only you and your own self whom you can trust blindly else what you’ll get is a betrayal from everyone.
“When you truly trust a person without any doubt, you finally get one of the two results : A person for life OR A lesson for life.”
I believe and accept the fact that one person can make a difference. If a person has thought of something and is rigid to their decision then they can change the world. But for that, power of thinking matters but actions matters too. If a person is willing to do and can do the change with their actions and words then he can do anything as willingness and words have the most powerful impact on the people through which people can implement it and make it change in their lives. And it is the most beautiful feeling of changing someone’s life in good terms through your words and actions and obviously if your actions can help someone then you can do anything. One person can make a lot of change in the lives as one person whom you met suddenly makes you smile, suddenly makes you feel special because they have that willingness and that power to make you feel happy and to change the things in good and positive terms and also make it look differently as it looks before. It’s strange that how a person who we don’t even know at once and suddenly becomes close to us and makes our life happy and beautiful but it’s not only in terms of any relationship, you can make a difference without any tag of relationship or anything, being an unknown as helping someone and making things change to help someone doesn’t need any relationship or tag it just need a power and willingness to act and to say. Always remember your actions and your words can be very powerful and sensitive for someone who is in keen for seeking help as a person only needs help when they are stuck in any problem and if at that point of their life they will find a guy to which they can see and think that yes he/she can make the difference then your words and actions are very important to them. So always be aware and be positive to your words and actions as anyone can steal it for their help. So never underestimate the power of ONE, because one person can do a lot. One man can make a difference.
“One smile, can start a Friendship. One word, can end a Fight. One look can save a Relationship. One person can make the Difference.”
The past couldn’t be as cruel as it looks like, it’s the imagination or thinking of your mind which makes it more cruel than it looks. Everyone has a past may be a good past, a bad past or a horrifying one but everyone do have it. But it’s up on you that how you deal with it whether thinking of that bad past and making your future bad too or to just forget the past and make your future bright. Also sometimes it happens that some people do not know the story of the other people and make fun of them. But always understand the story behind the person, do not speak anything without knowing the past of that person.
Likewise, a few days ago i was in a train and next to me there’s a boy who is 20 or 21 years old with his father and in front of our seat there’s one couple sitting. The 21 year boy amazingly says to his father that ‘Dad look at the trees they are walking behind with us’. The couple got annoyed and reacted weirdly, then the boy again screemed that ‘Dad see the clouds are running with us’. The couple again stared at him and asked his father to go to the doctor for him. Father smiled and replied ‘I am coming from a doctor only, my son was blind since birth, he just got his eyes’. The couple got embarrassed and utter nothing to him.
People sometimes act so annoyed that they just could not understand that if a person is behaving weirdly or acting childishly then their must be some reason or some story behind them due to which they become like this. Remember this do not ever judge people by their looks or how they are acting, always know their inner soul without saying anything to their outer one.
“Everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has LOST something.”