AND IT END ABRUPTLY……

Just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean two people stopped loving each other. They just stopped hurting each other.

It was a new journey of her life. The first day of her college and she was nervous but also excited too that what will gonna happen. She went to the college, sat at the corner of the first desk and stay quite and didn’t utter a word to any one. Then she realised that a girl in her class is from her school but in school they don’t even know each other’s name. She smiled at her but she didn’t replied and was gone away from their. She then thought that she is so arrogant. Then days pass by and it has been the seventh day of her college and that girl started talking to her and slowly slowly became friends. Later she realised that that girl lives very near to her house, so they started going together to the college and the bond between them started growing stronger. Then her friend got committed with a guy and three of them started roaming together here and there, the girl then became her best friend, her soulmate, her everything. They use to hangout together, they use to eat together, they use to study together, shop together and use to stay all day with each other at each other’s place.

One year passed and they both were best of friends, they were very happy together but suddenly the girl suffers break-up with his guy. The girl got broken as the girl loved him truly and deeply but she was always with the girl and supported her and calmed her through that point of her life. She was all the time with her in her every step and every doings and in each and every thing. She supported her like anything infact if she was busy in some thing she didn’t told her and still use to be with her leaving her that work. She did not think of herself, she did not think of her family but what she thought of, was to be with her. Then their second year started and the life was going as it was going before. Then the half of their second year was gone and their forth semester got started. They use to go college and what suddenly she realises that the girl started doing less talk to her, started hanging out without her, the girl was not effecting with anything of her and she started ignoring her and live her life like she is just a normal friend to her. She started noticing changes in her through which she was very upset and got effected by it. Then one day she decided to talk to her and they both talked and clear out the things but again after few days she again noticed that the girl was doing that again, then she again talked to her but this time unfortunately no conclusion could come out and they continued their life.

One month passed and she again talked to her and tried to clear out the things again but then she realised that the girl has no concern for their too much good friendship and she is happy in her life without her then she decided not to disturb her anymore. She then started maintained distance from the girl they both stopped talking to each other, they just talk in college, else remain quite, and they both stopped everything like hanging out and all. Because she know the fact and accepted it that the girl has got new friends and she is happy with them so she also didn’t utter anything to the girl. Days passed by and they become friends from best friends, a normal person from friends and then strangers. The story began from being strangers and ended being strangers.

And it ended abruptly……

“Again strangers; but with memories this time :’)”

Some times you don’t realise what you are doing but that might hurt someone very important in your life and then when they gone you realise it later.

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UNCONDITIONALLY !

If it is not Unconditional then it is not Love. What is an unconditional love ? Unconditional love means loving someone without any limitation, without any intention and most importantly without any conditions. If you love someone love them with all your heart because they’ve given you a piece from them to you. Unconditional love is caring about them unconditionally. It’s a feeling in which you are totally obsessed and mad for them. Their happiness becomes your happiness that is unconditional love, if their happiness is in staying away from you then let them go because if you hold on to them it would not make them happy and if it wouldn’t make them happy then it’s not love it’s a compromise in which only one person that is you are happy and the other person whom you love is unhappy. That is the love with conditions, not unconditional love. Remember the love with conditions is not love it’s like an investment. And according to me love is not an investment. Don’t be sad if you love someone and in return they are not loving you because while you loving them you were not sure that they will also love you or there was not a contract between both of you that if one person will love then other one will have to love in return. Instead of being sad, be happy that it grew in your beautiful heart and if it is meant to be yours then just wait for them and no matter what no one ever will able to stop them but if it is not meant for you then there’s no use to build a hope. Because false hopes always hurts, it will not only hurt you but also hurt them as they will feel offended or guilty for not loving you back. You are giving your love to someone doesn’t mean that it’s an assurance that they will love you back. Love has never assurance. Remember the fact one-sided love is better than two-sided as in one-sided, love is not divided in two it remains for one and only for that one forever and ever. Don’t make your love faded by expecting something in return but make your love immortal so that it will make them remember of you and your love which was only meant for them and only them.

“When you give and don’t expect anything in return, That’s Love. But if you give and expect in return it’s an investment.”

Unconditional love begins where nothing is expected in return.

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EQUALITY IS A MYTH

Equality is a concept that describes the exactness of any aspects in life. When the world was created it is the nature first and that indicates oneness or unity. But when we take up equality in human life, we are puzzled that the God made or created Adam and Eve. Here the question of equality has gone to the wind. And as we proceed further in life, we find inequality everywhere in the world. If we take Adam first, professor Ambre Vetteille had already written a book on “Inequality Among Men”. We see in the society Ambani brothers, all brothers, TATA’s and Birla’s and so many others are not equal in any respect. Therefore, it is proved that equality is a myth. Here in our class we have almost fifty students who come from different socio – economic backgrounds. Some seem to be rich in possession the others are relatively inferior to whereas boys and girls also, all are not equal in I.Q. Here the equanimity seems to be dilemma.

In the world, we have many countries all are not equal in many respects, ‘what to talk of Development’. Take the case of USA (United States Of America) and Russia, they are the two most developed and powerful countries, they have everything for their own people. When Russia was known to be USSR (Union Of Socialist Soviet Republic), both USA and Russia were engaged in Cold War, each one wanted to dominate other. After the break of USSR, the cold war ended. Still we have the friction between the two. However the dominance of each one continued. Here also the equality is a myth. The planet as such is not one, the topography differs. We have the land area and the sea and the ocean, in the land area we have forests and the plain, they are not equal. The ocean too is different, in it’s depth and look, it contains many species. When we come to the human affairs we are stump, we see everywhere, people fighting on petty issues. For instance, the road – rage in Delhi results in murder and shooting. Even for the parking of the cars in the locality also results in murder. All these cases tell us that equality is a myth. The society at large is full of inequalities.

Anything we talk, we have the phenomenon of myth. Ever since the world is made, we are walking over the inequalities. Whether it starts from the family, the villages, the society, the city, the metro’s and the States as well, even the colours of the skin of the people are not one. We talk of brown, white and black and accordingly the status of the person is decided or determined.

Now, the proposal “Equality is a myth” is the truth of life.

If the equality of individuals and the dignity of man be myths, they are myths to which the republic is committed.

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SAY NO – WITHOUT EXPLAINING YOURSELF !

Many people who are shy, introvert, have less communication skills do hesitate to say NO. Why ? Saying no doesn’t mean you are committing any crime or stealing something then why to hesitate. Learn to say NO. Say no to people who are not worth for your yes, say no to people for your self, say no to people whom you just cannot bare; but say it. No one will ever say you anything if you say a NO. It’s your life and the decisions for your life is totally depend up on you not in the hands of other people. They just cannot do anything with you because sometimes being selfish is better than being available for someone all time who cannot even worth of it and just useless to be with you. There are people who are full of attitude and ego without any reason neither they are an actor nor are a famous personality or anything else that they would have done something to feel proud on then why that attitude ? Let it be, let them stay in their fantasy world but you are not like that you are not living a fantasy world you are living a real life which is out of that pompousness and fantasies. It’s true such people do not care about others because they do not know the worth of them but once you’ve learnt to say no and let them realise that saying always yes does not make any sense for them as well as for you, they will surely try to make things get better. But til then you were not there for them to do such because you’ve already said them NO and you’ve moved on to your life. There are people who just cannot listen no but can say no to them who were always there for them in their hard times but in return when they expect the same from them, they are not there and just simply say no. If such people could do this thing with you then why cannot you do the same. Sometimes to let people realise their mistake, it’s necessary to be selfish and say a big NO to them without even explaining yourself, without giving any reason, without saying lie just a two letter word and that is NO. It will make you happy and them guilty not today but some other day.

“NO” is a complete sentence. It does not require justification or explanation.

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WALK AWAY !

What does the title suggest ? To walk away with the truth ? Or to walk away from some fear and be coward ? NO, it’s not walking away from the reality or from yourself but to walk away from someone’s life who’s not worth having you in it and to make them realise your WORTH.

Let It Hurt.
Let It Bleed.
Let It Heal.
And Let It GO.

Walking away from someone’s life who you love, care and attached to them is really hard. But things get harder if someone’s making you worthless and still you are carrying on with them. At this moment of life it is even harder to decide whether to walk away or to stay. Because when there is nothing between both left to say then there’s no use to stay and better to walk away and move on but the other thought that comes in our mind that if is it okay to walk away rather than just stay and talk to them. Well talking and clearing out the things between them is good but when you realise that it has been third or fourth time and the other person is not realising and is of no worth to clear the things more then you should step back from their life and move on forward to your life. Because if the person becomes annoying and of no worth for your attention and company then there’s no use of you to stay anymore. Sometimes letting go some things could make it better than making it worse.

You can love someone, help someone, guide someone, be there with them in all there hard times but cannot be a slave to someone and most importantly never become a use and throw material to that person, even if it has happen then give a break to your life and be mature to take such decision to make yourself worthy not worthless. Loving someone means you can wait for them, you can forgive them for their mistakes but when it’s high time then you need to first love yourself and get learned that when you need to walk away. Because sometimes walking away is the most powerful, mature and appreciable decision you could ever do. Always remember if you have done good to that person and you gave your 100% to that person then don’t worry in moving out of their lives because karma plays it’s role very well. You’ll anyhow get that goodness in return may be from that person only or may be in some other terms but you’ll definitely get it back and also don’t be sad for their doings as i say karma does it’s job very well so surely it will take care for them too. Some day at some time that person will realise that what they have done with you and cry for it but unfortunately their would be no one who can wipe their tears as they will be all alone.

“You see a person’s true colours when you are no longer beneficial to their life.”

When there’s nothing left to say, lift your head up high, smile, and walk away !

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!

NATIONALISM CREATES ENEMIES

Enchanting ‘Vande Matram’ and ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ is considered to be the symbols of nationalism, as the rulers of the country have decided. But the independent moment started by the Congress Party in the 19th and 20th century had a different connotation, at the time all the Indian people both Hindus and Muslims united together because both of them had a common goal of ‘Sarajya’. But on today’s day this connotation of nationalism has changed, way different perception.

In our schools and colleges enchanting ‘Vande Matram’ has been made as a compulsory announcement during assembly. But the Muslim community in India are having a different views in this respect and taking this as a purely religious matter. They have their own Personal Law Board, they have their own reservation in this respect. According to their ‘Shariya’ Law, that debar them to enchant this word (Vande Matram). Here we have created an enamical situation.

Now enchanting ‘Vande Matram’ and ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ has decided a two classes in India, one nationalist and other separatist. The concept of nationalism is murdered here. The human being in India is totally forgotten. Now, we have mainly two divisions of communities in India that are Hindus and Muslims which was the basis of division of India in 1947. Ever since the atmosphere in India is vitiated, also the recent shouting of Azadi in J.N.U campus has clearly vitiated the entire political situation in the states of Jammu and Kashmir. The Valley is totally disturbed at the moment.

The political ruler of the country (Bhartiya Janta Party, BJP) is unnecessarily raising the concept of nationalism. Honourable Shree Rabindranath Tagore had long ago written the book on nationalism. He had emphasized the human aspects of the people and associated this with the nature of the Earth. Man and nature go together, nature includes the earth and the man. Our geographical earth is bound. This very earth was divided in 1947. Now the people of Kashmir wants to divide this earth out of enmity – man against man. Our father of the nation (Mahatma Gandhi) had compositely thought about Hindus and Muslims. When he fought for the freedom of the country against the British Empire for the Independence. There was no question of Hindus and Muslims. All the people of India were Indian nationals, whether are in Hindu or Muslim. Then why do we have the question of national now, whether we enchant ‘Vande Matram’ or ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ or remain silent, why we have to have the index of national or anti-national now. If we like to enchant ‘Vande Matram’ or ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai’ or remain silent, our nationalism is impact. We should not have such rules that creates enemy in the society.

“With the banner of Nationalism in our hearts to build up a Mighty India, let us march forward on the path of duty.”

Nationalism is an infantile disease. It is the measles of mankind.

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BE A GOOD SPEAKER

All the great speakers were bad speakers at first, so never under estimate yourself; you can do it and you will do it.

Listening and speaking go simultaneously and as I told you all to be an effective listener in my previous post, it is also important to be a good speaker as well, which I would be telling you in my current post.

SPEAK in such a way that offers love to LISTEN to you.

Speeches occur in a wide variety of interpersonal, group and public communication situations for accomplishing an equally wide variety of business and professional goals. These include: to win approval or acceptance, to gather, disseminate, and exchange information, to exercise influence over the organizational process. There are different types of speeches ad their success depends on the ability of the presenter or speaker to assemble and collect and put forward different aspects of the subject in order to persuade the audience.

In order to be a good speaker, you have to follow some minimal tips which I’m going to explain you :

  • Be clear : Clarity is the first major point to be a good speaker. Your spoken words, should be eminently successful in conveying to the audience the ideas or emotions, facts or arguments, or the information you want to express. If your audience does not instantly able to grasp your point, you have failed as a speaker.
  • Be like an informal talker : A good speaker is closer to a personal and informal chat between two good friends. When you speak, there should be a perfect rapport between you and your audience to whom you want to convey your message.
  • Be vivid and concrete : Abstractions kill words. So make your words vivid. Include in it concrete facts which are easy to comprehend and visualize.
  • Be brief : The concentration or interest of an average audience does not last more than twenty to twenty five minutes. Ideally, your words should not be longer than this, unless the audience is motivated to know more. To achieve brevity, it is desirable to include only a few points which are mainly in concentration in your speech and elaborate them at some limited length.
  • Be interesting Quotations, symbols and humorous touches often make a speech interesting. Quotations should be familiar but not worn out. Humor should be spontaneous and gentle to attract the audience and not to get bored.
  • Be audience-oriented : A good speech is always tuned to the wavelength of the audience. Consider few points like are the audience general or specialized, how large is the audience, their age group, their social, religious, political and economic view of the listeners.

The good speaker should have the below mentioned qualities :

  • A good speaker is active, interested, cheerful, and enthusiastic, vital.
  • A good speaker is solemn.
  • A good speaker has a sense of controlling others.
  • A good speaker has a sense of controlling his subject.
  • A good speaker has a sense of leadership; he stands up tall, he talks eye to eye, speaks responsibly and with authority, as a leader should.
  • A good speaker tries to be equitable or impartial and same.
  • A good speaker keeps his sense of comicality.

“In good speaking, should not the mind of the speaker know the truth of the matter about which he is to speak.”

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EFFECTIVE LISTENING

What do you think is a listening ? 

Listening is an everyday affair. Most listeners see listening as a challenging task, so much so that the greatest challenge that the speaker faces is to make his/her speech making worth to. In other words, when a speaker envisages his/her speech making endeavor, he/she grows increasingly obsessed with the idea of making his/her speech interesting. This is simply because if he/she does not make his/her speech engrossing enough, he/she will not be listened to. To keep the listeners attentive to their speech, most speakers use a variety of tactics. Listening may be defined as the process of hearing, understanding and interpreting the spoken words. Listening means trying to view the issue the way the speaker views it. It means empathy. Listening requires more intelligence than speaking.

Effective listening is one of the keys to success in life and business. Listening is a vital component of the communication process. The effectiveness of communication depends upon the extent to which listening and communication take place in the course of an interaction. How effective listening can be benefited :

  • Better work environment: Proactive listening leads to understanding the real meaning of whatever is said. The listener understands the speaker’s beliefs, values, expectations and goals. When people listen with empathy, they better understand each other. Relations between them improve leading to a happy work environment.
  • Effective problem solving: Effective listening enables members of an organization collaborate in understanding problems and finding solutions to them. Decision making becomes effective.
  • Time saving: Good listening helps to avoid, wastage of time caused by needless clarification and queries.
  • Reduction in Hostilities: Active listening reduces tensions and conflicts. Healthy exchange of views and opinions removes misunderstandings and disputes. Team work is enhanced.
  • Industrial Harmony: When managers listen with empathy, employees have faith and trust in management. If grievances and suggestions of employees are expressed freely there is improvement in employer-employee relations.
  • Higher earnings: Increase in the commitment and satisfaction o employees ultimately result in greater sales and profits. Customer satisfaction : To satisfy the customer needs listening is an important factor. Customer needs reassurance that he is being heard. When he expresses the complaint and being heard it gives him a lot of satisfaction.
  • Employee Training: In the knowledge economy, employees have to constantly upgrade their knowledge and skills. Good listening is important tool learning from others.
  •  Public Relations: Every business firm communicates with its stakeholders. Active listening helps the firm to improve its relations with stakeholders and thereby, boosts its public image.

This motivates the person who is being listened by the other person and got attention from. You can be an effective listener by using these tips :

  • Positive Attitude: The speaker must develop a positive attitude towards the speaker. Acceptance of the speaker creates a proactive interest in listening. Then the listener can understand the words as well as the feelings of the speaker.
  • Concentration: Full concentration on what is being said is the key to good listening. The listener can focus his attention by trying to anticipate the speaker’s utterances. No part of the speech has to be missed out. Listen patiently and with full attention.
  • Interaction: Question answer technique facilitates interactions between the speaker and the listener. Participation of the listener makes listening effective. Avoid direct questions and arguments about facts.
  • Right body language: An active listening must have an attentive face, direct eye-contact, a closed mouth, smile, a comfortable sitting position and occasional handshake. All distracting body gestures like tapping of feet, drumming of fingers and talking to other listeners should be avoided.
  • Prevent Noise: All environmental distractions must be prevented to ensure proper listening.
  • Listen between the lines: The changing tone and volume of voice, facial expressions, gestures and body movements of the speaker all have some meaning. Listening can be made effective by the conscious effort oh speaker, the listener and others concerned with the process of communication

This is not a tough job to be an effective listener. Try this once and you’ll notice itself the difference between the thing now and before. Also it will help increasing your communication skills and also will help others.

“Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone.”

Listening is a positive act : you have to put yourself out to do it.

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!

BE A POSITIVE TALKER

What is the term ‘positive’ means ? Positive is a desirable or constructive quality, being optimistic, confident or attribute.

Truth is individual. That means when we speak, we have to be positive, that is the indication is in a good form. Or all the good points are to be highlighted. Our focus is the reality or truth. For instance : Mahatma Gandhi experienced truth in South Africa and had written down a book called “My Experience With Truth”. Here he talked about his daily incidences happened in life. Likewise we should be speaking the plain truth as truth always carries the positivity with it no matter what.

In colleges or schools, our teacher asks about ‘ what is happening in the states of Uttar Pradesh ?’ Now we are to speak or talk about the political aspects in the State. The Chief Minister, Shri Yogi Aditya Nath transferred so many of the government officers at a time in his State. It is impracticable in the system of administration, that indicates interruption of day to day work in the life of the people of the State, even when the life of the officers transferred is affected.

At the same time, in the name of ‘The Gau Raksha’ the vigilantes have taken the law into their own hands. Muslim people in the State that are engaged in the business of animal trades are harassed in the main of ‘Gau Raksha’. They are their real traders of cows and buffaloes. The vigilantes ask them about the receipts of the animal trades. At the same time they took them into upward situation. Moreover they beat them and snatched their mobile phones and other belongings with them. This was telecast in the television. In this case we have talked about the positive aspects of State. We haven’t added any masala in the talk. This is the plain truth in the State. At another place, there are people who are poaching the animal skin, and also the elephant tusk.

Also in the State of Madhya Pradesh the Minister of the State had distributed 700 bats to brides, so that they could take care of their husbands, in case they turn alcoholic. In this case this a novel idea that the Minister administered. Somewhere in the States of Bihar, there is a total Prohibition, no alcohol is sold in the State.

Overall political administration in India, at a moment is going some drastic change. Somewhere vigilantes problem, somewhere Gau Raksha problem and somewhere alcoholic problem.

The above facts are all about truth and are narrated positively because as i said in starting that truth carries positivity with it.

“Be ANNOYINGLY POSITIVE and OPTIMISTIC than DESTRUCTIVELY NEGATIVE and HATEFUL.”

Once you replace negative thoughts with POSITIVE ones, you’ll start having positive RESULTS.

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CHILD LABOR- AN ABUSE

The title is explaining everything itself that what is it about. Here I would like to introduce you all to a story of “TWO CHILDREN AND TWO DIFFERENT BAGS”. It means that here’s the story of two different children of same age group living their lives differently. It’s a real life based incident.

A boy who’s 13 years old wakes up early in the morning at 6.00 a.m to get ready for his school on the other hand another boy of age 12 years wakes up at 6.00 a.m only but here not for going to school but for collecting garbage from door to door. The 13 year boy is getting ready, wearing his well ironed clothes and the 12 year boy wearing his torn old clothes, as well as walking barefooted. While the 13 year boy combing his hair looking into the mirror of his own room, on the other hand the 12 year boy setting his hair from his hands looking onto the glass of the car from where he’s just passing by. One side 13 year boy taking out books from his bag and on the other side 12 year boy digging up the garbage in his bag. That 13 year boy is playing in his school, having fun, eating good food and living luxurious life, and 12 year boy collecting garbage all day and at the end of the day sleeping empty stomach. Another day comes and the history is being repeated but one day the poor 12 year boy found something to eat from his garbage bag and got so happy as if he has won any victory or something.

This is the life of the poor people who just cannot afford to go to the school, live the lives like we are living. They got their happiness in such small things while we are looking for a big happiness to come. They do not bother about their present and future, they just live their life as they are living it with no such complaints and demands to anyone.

Children Deserve Better !

They deserve to be educated, as they have the right to study being a citizen of this country. They deserve to eat better, live better. Make their future bright, shape their future right by banning child labor. Child labor is child abuse. Children should deserve pens in their hands not tools at this age. They are the future of our nation so support and protect the pillars of our nation.

STOP CHILD LABOR !

“CHILD LABOR is a devestation, they should concentrate on EDUCATION.

Child is meant to LEARN, not to EARN.

#THINK POSITIVE, STAY MOTIVATED !!